Friday 10.03

Dr. Ruth Westheimer

World famous therapist and educator, Dr Ruth reads from Dr. Ruth’s Guide to Teens and Sex Today: From Social Networking to Friends with Benefits. Her latest book offers sage advice on how to help both parents and teens navigate dating, hook-ups, and more in a digital age. What about the pill?

Borders Columbus Circle, 10 Columbus Circle at Broadway, 212-823-9775, 6pm, free

Polyamorous NYC Super Massive Cuddle Party

Looking to spread love outside of your current monogamous doldrum relationship? Here’s your chance! Individuals, couples, and groups of all orientations and genders come together for a workshop on how to better facilitate multiple-partner hook-ups.

The Center, 208 W 13th St, room 101, 212-620-7310, 7:30pm, $20-$62, www.cuddleparty.com

Hot Chip + Growing

Brit electro-pop group returns to NYC with new album Made In The Dark. This time around the geeks got gook, no hits like Over and Over from second release The Warning back in 2006…but the live show still rocks! Growing opens. After party with Hot Chip DJ set at Fixed www.myspace.com/fixednyc

Terminal 5, 610 W 56th St at Eleventh Ave, 212-260-4700, 8pm, $30, www.hotchip.co.uk

Stereolab + Anti-Pop Consortium

The original mash-up “Marxists” (they’re not really Marxists…just political LOL), known for combining krautrock, lounge, pop, and experimental music influences for the ultimate post-rock meltdown, are back…with nothing really new except for a couple of frosh bandmates. They were once HUGE in the 90s underground…if you’re into digging. Anti-Pop Consortium open. Afterparty with Stereolab DJ set at Robot Rock www.gbh.tv

Fillmore New York at Irving Plaza, 17 Irving Plaza at 15th St, 212-777-6800, 8pm, $25, www.myspace.com/stereolab

Saturday 10.04

Crashin’ In

DJs Oil and Toby Rascal of Kanine Records spin yet another night of Britrock, Indie, Post-punk, and nu-wave for a L.E.S. skater crowd. Plus…Oasis Dig Out Your Soul new album listening room with giveaways from Filter.

Stanton Public, 17 Stanton St bet Bowery and Chrystie St, 212-677-5555, 10pm, free, www.crashinin.com

Kryptozoology

Kostume Kult gets ready for Old Hallows Eve with a zoology themed benefit night. Dress like a feathered friend, an evolutionary oddity, or a bio-luminescent, dusty fabulous playa. Ticket proceeds go to funding KK’s notorious Halloween parade float.

Sandra Cameron Dance Center, 199 Lafayette St bet Broome and Kenmare Sts, 212-431-1825, 9pm, $25, www.kostumekult.com

Katrina del Mar: Movie Mayhem! A Tuff Chick Film Night

Iconic photographer, filmmaker, and writer Katrina del Mar presents an evening of her short films including Gang Girls 2000 and Surf Gang. In the true spirit of director Russ Meyer and female empowerment, Del Mar’s chicks don’t take no shit! Plus more girl power short flicks by Lola Rock N Rolla, Kate Huh, Lesbian Van Halen, and Jasmine Hirst.

Gene Frankel Theatre, 24 Bond St bet Broadway and Lafayette Sts, 212-777-1767, 7pm and 9pm, $12, www.katrinadelmar.com

Sunday 10.05

The New Yorker Festival

The three day congregation of writers, artists, thinkers, strategists, and performers wraps up with talks with Tommy Lee jones, Salman Rushdie, Paul Theroux, and Louis Vuitton Japanese artist-of-the-moment Haruki Murakami.

Metropolitan Pavilion, 123 W 18th St bet Sixth and Seventh Aves, 1pm, $35 per event, www.festival.newyorker.com